The thing about growth and love is that with time, our expectations become more realistic, they change. How a person looks pales, and their stability, values and integrity become priority.
Dependability becomes important as it is a great measure of personal integrity, so you watch out for their ability to keep the simplest promise.
Accountability and a high sense of responsibility then overrides even the number of degrees acquired. Excitement takes the backseat and stickability fills the front burner.
The butterflies in your tummy are ignored and the entire tapestry of the ‘relate-tions’ take the fore. Each thread - of respect (for self, others, boundaries), compassion, confidence, empathy, altruism, vision, motivation and even faith, comes under scrutiny.
These matter more now, because unconditional love is not an event but a result, a tapestry of unique threads woven painstakingly and intentionally, over time by hands that know imperfection is irrelevant where there is a determination to harness the differences and create a harmony of the good, ugly, and everything in-between.
